Fitting In Versus Belonging

Fitting In Versus Belonging

Fitting in Versus Belonging popped up in my LinkedIn feed. Clicking and reading more of David Mead’s words I had an aha moment. Finally, I stumbled across the words that named a common thread in hundreds of conversations I’ve had over the years.

Cathy’s story was a common one. She’d gone through a messy divorce and was now left renting and raising two teens every second week. She’d survived the rocky transition from married to single life through endless partying with friends, a bottle of wine most nights and a constant cigarette in her hand. It had been a distraction that helped her to numb the pain and grieving of what was. Now the divorce papers were signed, the assets divided and it was time to create the life she really did want rather than getting by. That’s when she saw me to get her energy back, lose weight and just feel great again.

Eight weeks later she emerged an energised, slimmer version of her former self with a clearer mind, greater sense of herself and a burning drive to get shit done as she moved towards the life she dreamt of. Fast forward six months later she was weight training most days, had bought a house, quit smoking, drank only occasionally and ate cleanly most of the time.

Now Cathy’s old life no longer fitted and the friends who had partied with her as she got by, now made her feel like she couldn’t be the new version of herself. There was the constant pressure of conformity, ‘aren’t you going to drink with us anymore?’ Yes I can have one but I’m running 10km tomorrow at 6am and I need to be fresh. I’m happy for one drink and a dance but need to be in bed this side of midnight. ‘Oh, what’s wrong with you, where’s the old Cathy she was always so much fun. Remember when we……’

Unknown to many is when you change your habits, priorities, beliefs and values, it changes your world. We truly live life from the inside out.

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How To Attract Deep and Lasting Love

How To Attract Deep and Lasting Love

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Connection is something we all desire: Feeling seen, known, and deeply bonded with another person is what life is all about. Love can be the sweetest experience there is.

Yet attracting great love into our lives is a struggle for many. It feels so far away, yet we crave it so badly.

The reason we struggle is simple: If we’re not embodying love, we won’t attract it.

Reality is created from the inside out. Your relationships mirror your feelings about yourself, your beliefs about relationships, and how much love you embody.

When you truly become love, love has no choice but to appear in front of you in all forms (including an incredible partnership).

Here are eight steps that will transform your internal experience of love so you can attract the greatest love of your life. Become love within, and it will have no choice but to come to you.

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10 Warning Signs of a Toxic Relationship

10 Warning Signs of a Toxic Relationship

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Unfortunately, toxic people alsodo what they can to woo us. Toxic people may use their faults or shortcomings as “bait” to win over others. You may not realize how deep you’ve gone into an unhealthy relationship until its toxic symptoms are getting in the way of normal behaviors or feelings.  – Phsycology Today

Warning Signs of a Toxic Relationship, Is it possible that you or someone you know is in a toxic or emotionally abusive relationship?

Think about it.

It doesn’t necessarily have to be with an intimate partner.

You can be in a toxic relationship with anyone from a parent to a sister-in-law to a co-worker, but the warning signs are pretty much the same.

Here are ten Warning Signs of a Toxic Relationship:

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Difference Between Friendship and Relationship

Difference Between Friendship and Relationship

Difference Between Friendship and Relationship – 3 Types of Romantic Relationships and Friendships – Where Are You?

It’s normal to love your friends. But how can you be sure that what you are feeling is not actually romantic love? Sometimes it might be hard to tell the difference between platonic friendship and a different kind of love. If you’re feeling confused, take some time to examine your relationship. Think about specific examples of times that you’ve experienced feelings of love. You can also consider your priorities. What are you looking for in a partner? Do you want to try to take the relationship to the next level? There are ways you can figure this out without risking the friendship. – Wiki How

Difference Between Friendship and Relationship – In relationships there are different levels of support, awareness, and growth, which in turn affect your abundance in life. This also applies to friendships.

In some relationships, mediocrity is welcomed, but brilliance is not. You are adored, loved and celebrated when you are playing small. However, in your genius moments, you need to constantly dim your light to be happy in the relationship because you are standing too tall. There will be a feeling of having to choose between your relationship and your life assignment. In these relationships, it is often an unconscious response fuelled by the mindset of scarcity and lack that your partner is living in – “rein them in”, being their motto.

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Relationships are really mirrors of how we are showing up in our lives. They show us our humanity towards others, our needs that must be met, and our desire to serve and give back.

You discover your level of trust in people, your willingness to release or desire to hold on tight, whether you are a good leader or a better follower or a healthy balance between both.

Relationships are here to build our muscle of compassion and understanding and also build our muscles for healthy boundaries. Do I say yes when I mean yes or yes when I feel no? Do I understand what it means to say no?

Relationships are dynamic events between two people so they help us to see where we are currently showing up in the arena of communication. Are you speaking your mind or withholding your opinions? Are you truly listening to your partner or simply waiting for your next turn to speak? Through the discovery of why you communicate in the way you do, you are able to improve your communication skill set.

Romantic relationships also provide specific and necessary functions at different times of our lives. This is the Difference Between Friendship and Relationship.

Here are the 3 types of relationships, and what they look like.

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