Fitting in Versus Belonging popped up in my LinkedIn feed. Clicking and reading more of David Mead’s words I had an aha moment. Finally, I stumbled across the words that named a common thread in hundreds of conversations I’ve had over the years.
Cathy’s story was a common one. She’d gone through a messy divorce and was now left renting and raising two teens every second week. She’d survived the rocky transition from married to single life through endless partying with friends, a bottle of wine most nights and a constant cigarette in her hand. It had been a distraction that helped her to numb the pain and grieving of what was. Now the divorce papers were signed, the assets divided and it was time to create the life she really did want rather than getting by. That’s when she saw me to get her energy back, lose weight and just feel great again.
Eight weeks later she emerged an energised, slimmer version of her former self with a clearer mind, greater sense of herself and a burning drive to get shit done as she moved towards the life she dreamt of. Fast forward six months later she was weight training most days, had bought a house, quit smoking, drank only occasionally and ate cleanly most of the time.
Now Cathy’s old life no longer fitted and the friends who had partied with her as she got by, now made her feel like she couldn’t be the new version of herself. There was the constant pressure of conformity, ‘aren’t you going to drink with us anymore?’ Yes I can have one but I’m running 10km tomorrow at 6am and I need to be fresh. I’m happy for one drink and a dance but need to be in bed this side of midnight. ‘Oh, what’s wrong with you, where’s the old Cathy she was always so much fun. Remember when we……’
Unknown to many is when you change your habits, priorities, beliefs and values, it changes your world. We truly live life from the inside out.
Looking after Yourself Before the Sh*t Hits the Fan. Protect Your Greatest Asset.
Going through, been through or even heading towards a tough time in your life? You know it’s guaranteed. Your greatest asset will always be YOURSELF. Yes, we often miss this one. Looking after Yourself is key!
When the word asset comes to mind, material possessions parade like a slideshow in your head, rarely do you think or treat yourself in this way.
I always say, “your body is the only thing you arrive in and leave with and when it wears out so do you. So, treat it like the gift it is.”
There is no time for disrespecting your greatest asset.
When you’re on track, you’re in a great state so you make great decisions. You’re balanced, centred, full of energy, optimistic, strong and courageous. Sure, there’ll be times of holy sh*t what will I do now, but you’ll be better equipped to deal with them.
How have you been treating your greatest asset lately?
Have you been feeding it crappy fuel and bunny hopping down the road, getting frustrated by it’s bad performance? Think of this next time you put something in your mouth.
For many, including mwah a health crisis can be a turning point in your life. I know mine was.
Getting More Energy Naturally – 10 Tips To Move From Flat To Fantastic
Can’t be bothered? Feeling overwhelmed?
Life feels too hard? Running on empty?
Whenever, I start feeling flat for no good reason I step back and take stock. Check in if you like.
Here’s what I usually find –
- I’m being unkind to myself,
- I’m unorganised with my food and time,
- I’ve let my nourishing rituals drop off,
- I haven’t planned anything to look forward to,
- I’m focusing on what’s not there instead of what is.
Here’s 10 tips to shift from flat to fantastic real quick – Getting More Energy Naturally –
“Happiness, growth and satisfaction live in the journey, the challenges and even, the struggle.” – Craig Harper
Hit a fork in the road, a setback or just in a world of pain?
If you’ve ever tried to learn something new – tennis, an instrument, a language or losing weight, you know progress is never linear. Inevitably you encounter setbacks, plateaus or even roadblocks in your progress. Maybe you lost the first 10 kilos quickly, but the last 5 kilos you can’t budge or it creeps back on over Christmas.
You concentrate on a particular area, only to drop the ball in another area. For instance focusing on your food and exercise, but your head or mindset isn’t in the right place so you keep sabotaging yourself.
It happens often to many of us. We’re travelling along and pain and resistance is starting to build. Discomfort creeps in then it increases exponentially. Some of us go silent, withdraw, give up, escape through sleep, alcohol, eating or the like or perhaps yell and scream.