Did you know how you do one thing is how you do everything?  Small things, big things, under stress. There is a default pattern you keep repeating.  What’s yours?

 How you handle and manage any situation, challenge or experience in your life is how you probably handle all of them. HuffPost

 I totally got this last year after attending a self development workshop in Fiji.  I’d just arrived in Fiji, after boarding a red eye flight from Melbourne, arriving at my destination, two planes & a car ride later at 8.30am the next day.

After a short welcome blurb and a night of broken sleep I was told to get ready to scale a pole & jump off it. My heart sank and a wave of hot and sweatyness engulfed me.   All I could think was, “You’ve got to be kidding. I couldn’t have prepared less if I tried.”

We arrived at the location, my heart racing and mouth so dry I could hardly swallow and just thinking, “oh shit” as I lined up.   Parting words from instructors being – How you do one thing is how you do everything.

Meaning when placed under stress we have a “go to” pattern we play out, over and over again.  It was time to undercover mine.

What’s your pattern when challenged?

Do you freeze up & avoid?

Do you race to the top & forget to enjoy the journey?

Do you need others to model the way?

Do you find it hard to let go to move forward?

Do you overthink and talk yourself out of your greatness?

Do you have a logical sequence or do you miss steps & become unbalanced?


How we think we’ll do something, is often not how our body acts. Interesting!   To finish off the story, I did way better than I expected.  Yes I get it, we often under-estimate our resources and over-estimate the challenge.

I scaled that sucker with ease and kept my gaze on the horizon. No looking back.  It was all about going forward and being in the moment and not letting the past determine your future.  No looking down or back, to freak the hell out of myself.

I paused at the very top, to collect myself and let go of the pole, to stand on top, as I rearranged my feet.   What a metaphor for life – Letting go of what is, to move forward into what will be.  How You Do One Thing, Is How You Do Everything!

Victorious and in awe of what was possible, I savoured the moment. Took it all in. There was no way you were going to get me up there twice – once was enough!  Now to get down. The only way was to jump. I was supported by a harness and rope, yet the feeling was the total opposite. How true is that of life.   When things go really wrong, there’s often a wave of hidden support that envelopes us, from what seems like nowhere.  

It’s time to jump. I shut my eyes and leap forward into thin air. “Ohhhhhhh shit!”  Here I finally felt that glorious support from a grinning Fijian face holding the other end of the rope. I survived it all.  You learn so many lessons and insights by doing something outside my comfort zone. And I wouldn’t be forgetting them any time soon.

Breakthroughs don’t take 10 years to happen.  Breakthroughs happen in a moment.  A moment when you say “That’s it I’m done. Time for change. Let’s make this happen. Onwards and upwards.”  In that moment there’s shifts in attitudes, behaviour and awareness that last.

Among the group, there was a saying – “Leave your bullshit on the pole”. It was a time to breakthrough those limiting beliefs, stories and rules to emerge on the other side new and improved.

A moment to shift towards and step up to the life you were meant to live.   Is it time for you to have a breakthrough – physically, mentally, emotionally?

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Julie xx