What is your blueprint for…… how life should be?
Do you really value joy or happiness or certainty or connection or………?
Did you even realise you had a blueprint?
Well you do even if you didn’t realise it!
What are your rules for having the life you would love?
For example, to experience joy every day. I need to have….
• The right people around me
• Others to reciprocate in a way I would like them to
• The family I create needs to love me unconditionally, support me, be happy and act as a unit.
Now, are these conditions likely to be met regularly in a busy family with teenage children?
So this person would NOT be joyful very often and is going to be angry, frustrated and overwhelmed a majority of the time.
Perhaps it is time to replace the rules with something else that will work for them.
Your expectations have a huge impact on how you experience your life.
Your blueprint can create pain or joy…..what does your create?
If it is frustration, disappointment, anger, sadness, grief, stress?
This is a sign your blueprint is getting in the way of your soul.
Happiness comes from accepting what is.
Raise your expectations of yourself and lower the expectations of other people.
In other words “trade expectation for appreciation” and watch your levels of joy rise.
How many people do you know who are on antidepressants and they are still depressed?
In my experience…..lots.
This is because their blueprint remains the same. They are still running the same patterns of depression through a combination of physiology, focus and meaning.
If you keep doing the same thing you are going to get the same results.
And you end up feeling as though life is controlling you more than you are controlling life.
Your expectations project onto other people.
If your state is playful, fun, curious….this will lead to wildly different outcomes compared to one of rigidity and expectation, which sets you up for feeling not enough, out of control, stressed and overwhelmed.
The same philosophy applies to achievement versus fulfilment.
Life flows so much better when you attract things to you rather than control them.
Trade expectation for appreciation, give joy to others (whether they see it or not), find joy in situations, grow beyond the need to control but rather influence and be open to learning and growing.
So in essence, it can be about waking up to what is controlling your life….which will lead to shifts in certain areas of your life.
Remember a shift of 1 degree can lead to a very different trajectory in 1 month, 1 year or 5 years.
So, by using these principles life can take on the properties of a wonderful adventure to be appreciated and enjoyed.
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