Life Skills Melbourne – 9 Ways To Convert Pessimism Into Optimism And Make It Stick

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Life Skills Melbourne  – Optimism is good for your mind, body and soul. Numerous studies indicate that optimists generally enjoy healthier hearts, brains, immunity and tend to live longer than their less upbeat counterparts.

But for some, optimism is easier said than done.

Let’s say you weren’t born with an innate abundance of optimism, or perhaps life’s challenges have tamped down some of your enthusiasm … then what?

The answer is to teach yourself some skills that can help you develop a greater sense of optimism and resilience. This health-supportive turn of mind is learnable. Just like eating well or staying fit, it becomes easier with a little practice and, of course, a roadmap.

Here are a few Life Skills Melbourne to help guide yourself in a more optimistic direction. Try adding one or two and keep adding new skills to your repertoire over time.

As your experience with and capacity for optimism grows, you’ll be on your way to becoming that healthier, upbeat person you wish to be.

In the words of His Holiness the Dalai Lama, “Choose to be optimistic, it feels better.”

Positive thoughts lead to positive emotions. Positive emotions make you healthy and happy. Whoever is optimistic lives a happier and more successful life. To be positive and optimistic, we should practice physical and mental exercises. – Wiki How

Life Skills Melbourne  – Getting started:

1. Experience and feel gratitude every day.

Live like an optimist and celebrate your blessings often — not what’s missing. At the beginning or end of each day write 3 things down and feel it in your body. No matter how inconsequential it might seem. Periodically revisit the ever-growing list to keep you connected with that sense of gratitude and appreciation for all the things that go right in life every day. Too often we do the reverse.


2. Be mindful of the language you use when talking to yourself.

It’s a bit of a self-fulfilling prophecy: the optimists’ positive self-talk and confidence in their abilities help stack the deck for positive outcomes. Even if plans go awry, their optimistic outlook helps them to better cope with occasional setbacks, versus labelling something a disaster and giving up in despair. Next time a potentially scary new project comes your way, instead of fretting, think — Adventure! Opportunity! Solutions! New experiences! — and you’ll be speaking the language of optimism


3. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

Stop judging and start living! This includes ourselves. When we are harsh to ourselves we are harsh to others. Behave more like an optimist, learn to embrace patience and let minor irritations go. Consider it an informal exercise in Zen.


 4. Look for the silver lining.

When things get tough, the optimist looks for the silver lining in the midst of adversity. What can I learn from this? What is the universe trying to tell me? How can I move forward?

By making the effort to find the good and extract the lessons from a difficult situation, you lessen the sting and can bounce back more quickly.

And rather than dwelling in fear and regret, learning to be more resilient — to bend without breaking — will enable you to greet future challenges in a can-do frame of mind, with patience and wisdom versus fear and regret.


 5. Choose your media wisely.

We all have “noise” in our lives, but optimists gravitate to the upbeat kind. Beautiful photos, inspiring films, soul-stirring music, funny videos and television shows support a more positive perspective, so as you’re learning to become more optimistic, consider restricting the flow of negative images into your daily consciousness. There’s a big difference between staying informed and immersing yourself in gruesome or upsetting tabloid news, so know when it’s time to retreat.


 6. Link into the core desired feelings you want to feel often.

These are different for each of us and reflect our core values and beliefs. I suggest picking 5 core desired feelings that really light you up. They could be bold, bright, beautiful, authentic,  joy, freedom, flow, wisdom, truth, love……and so much more to choose from. Get creative! Connect to these feelings often. Write them on the bathroom mirror, a sticky note in the car, a reminder on your phone, chant them in the car. They will move you towards the light of optimism….and your best life.


 7. Have faith you’ll get beyond the bumps.

When faced with a challenge, remind yourself that you’ve made it through life’s storms thus far, and there’s an excellent chance you’ll make it through whatever comes next. And what comes next may not be a storm at all, but a spectacular sunset or a wonderful, life-changing moment. Know in your heart that you will prevail and make the thought of a beautiful outcome your mental default setting, not the dark clouds.


 8. Limit your exposure to negative people.

When it comes to pessimism, a little goes a long way. Instead, spend more time with optimists and less with “the doom and gloom specialists”. That’s not to say you need to cut them off completely, but if you’re trying to change your perspective, limit exposure. If there are a number of pessimists in your inner circle, share your interest in optimism or lead by example and gently direct conversations in a positive direction.


9. Meditate for 10 minutes each day.

Research has shown meditation can significantly reduce the over-reactivity of our amygdala (or reptilian brain), which happens after being exposed to chronic or sustained stress. This will cause us to become extreme pessimists looking for the bad, in past, present and future constantly. This results in poor sleep, oversensitivity and poor adaptability to life in general. Meditation has been shown to reset us to become more optimistic. Why not try a meditation app such as Headspace or Smiling Mind?

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