Fear comes in many different disguises, the most common one being stress. Today, we wear stress as a badge of honour. But it is really just a code word for fear.
Does fear constantly drive your life? Time to check in and see.
Until you see fear for what it is, it will unconsciously be running your life. Here are 10 signs that fear is running your life:
1. You procrastinate.
Afraid of putting yourself out there because of fear of failure, fear of success, fear of uncertainty, fear of judgment, fear of criticism, or fear of rejection, you’ll tend to hug the sidelines where you’ll feel safer.
Fear faced head-on, leads to momentum. Suddenly love and service create inspired action and sharing what you have to offer, with the world.
2. Losing your voice.
Operating in fear, causes you to become silent. You don’t stand up for what you believe in. You’re too afraid to ask for what you really want.
When love replaces fear, you respect and appreciate the voice that flows through you and let it be heard. This will attract others who resonate with your truth and you’ll find your tribe.
3. You numb yourself.
Vices can include alcohol, drugs, sex, television, food or excessive busyness. Fear causes inner pain, that shows up as depression, anxiety, restlessness, helplessness, hopelessness, frustration, sadness, loneliness and fatigue. To avoid inner pain, you can choose addictions and numbing behaviours as a way to cope. But it actually does the opposite, leading to plummeting self-esteem and intensifying inner pain.
When we’re able to be still with ourselves, and face our inner demons, we heal from within. Now we can ditch the alcohol, cigarettes, overeating, workaholism, painkillers, and other numbing distractions. Courage to do the work that is required will surface and freedom will be your end result.
4. You say yes when you mean no.
Afraid to disappoint people or get rejected if you don’t say yes? This fear-based, people-pleasing, self-sacrificing behaviours leads to resentment. Time to learn to say “no” when it feels self-loving. You can still devote yourself to generosity and service. But the service stems from the motivation of love rather than fear.
5. You settle.
You’re afraid to take risks and go for what you really want. You convince yourself that your current less-than-juicy life is as good as it ever gets. You forget your dreams. You become “realistic” and “sensible”.
6. You obsess on perfectionism.
You punish yourself trying to be overly perfect. And this separates you from what you ultimately truly desire – being seen, heard, loved, and accepted for just being you.
7. You say no when you mean yes.
You’re unlikely to take risks, because you’re afraid to fail, afraid to succeed, afraid to get rejected, afraid to stir things up, afraid to get out of your comfort zone.
When you get comfortable with being uncomfortable, you’ll start making peace with the demons and start stretching your identity to take leaps of faith, and trust that you are capable of so much more than you realise.
8. You get sick.
Fear triggers the stress responses and heightens your risk of illness and delays healing. Fearful people have increased incidence of heart attacks, cancer, diabetes, autoimmune diseases, inflammatory disorders, chronic pain and colds. As well as insomnia, low energy, obesity, dizziness, headaches, backaches, decreased libido and gastrointestinal problems.
9. You have to control everything.
You micromanage everything, which is blood-sucking and energy-depleting. You have totally forgotten that life is happening for you, not to you.
Time to relax and surrender to the flow of life, accept what is, let go of what was and focus on what could be.
10. You get stuck.
You avoid making the decisions you know you must make. Uncertainty terrifies you. To finally decide it’s time to let go of toxic relationships, or quit that soul-sucking job, or set boundaries with your mother, or go to rehab, or speak up about the integrity breaches at work.
Remember endless possibilities and opportunities await you on the other side of fear.
Time to wake up and start moving in the direction of your dreams and ultimately your freedom.
So start running your life from a love rather than soul-depleting fear. May the force be with you!
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